A few nights ago, I heard God say, "for standers to pray against demonic discernment." This is where the stander or prodigal spouse begin to discern from a hardened heart. Which can lead to discerning the voice of God incorrectly. God showed me this recently through a session and began to elaborate even more afterwards.
God said, I'm speaking but they are discerning me incorrectly through highlighting the fault of one another, as I'm releasing strategies to pray their pride sees the fault of their spouses, but they cannot understand it's me highlighting areas they need to desperately pray concerning."
I saw God not just releasing prayer targets for the standing spouse but also for the prodigal spouse as well. Of course, the prodigal nor the stander understood what they were seeing and satan was using it to magnify the reason they left to begin with. Both hearts were hardened and discerning the Spirit of God incorrectly.
If God showed them an area to pray in this vision all the more, they saw it as a reason to leave (fault-finding). God isn't showing you certain areas of your spouse so you can plan your next gateway of escape. He is showing you so you can pray for their healing even the ugliest of the ugliest parts of them doesn't need your criticism and vice versa. They need your help even if their pride says otherwise, their spirit man is saying something completely opposite.
I hope this makes sense as I sat on this word awaiting to release it at the appropriate time. I was also wondering personally why would God release this sort of information to a prodigal spouse who knowingly has a hardened heart? But I guess this same question could be applied to both parties involved.
Based off what I was discerning God is calling them into a place of prayer, and as they take heed of the invitation he will begin to instruct, correct, and reveal.
This has been my prayer for prodigals lately, that God would give them knowledge, wisdom, understanding, instruction, and discretion will be their guide as stated in proverbs.
He is doing just that, but both the prodigal and standers are lacking understanding. Which will be my next target of prayer for both the stander, the prodigal, or the prodigal (stander).
Seek God and ask for God to give you discernment in this season you're currently in so you don't sabotage what He is doing and heal so your hardened heart won't cause you both to bleed out on each other.
—Jacie Hutchins